Legal Challenges and our Hopes for a Better Future

It's been a tough week and at times I've felt overwhelmed. We've been dealing with solicitors over difficulties with the plans to move Chrissy on, and have seen a return of some of her old challenging behaviours. Issues with the quality of personal care she'd been receiving had resurfaced but, thankfully, they've been resolved again.

We've had crisis times like this throughout Chrissy's life. I'm painfully aware that some quality of personal care problems could be avoided if Chrissy lived with us full-time but, as we experienced this weekend, it could never work for a number of reasons. I discuss this dilemma in a previous blog http://jgregorysharingsstories.blogspot.co.uk/2012/10/living-at-home-again-impossible-dream.html Some adults with a learning disability can thrive in the home setting. Chrissy isn't one of them and this is the case with many adults with a learning disability that display severe challenging behaviours. Even when Chrissy is at her most settled, she is full-on and can't be left unsupervised. Her intellectual functioning is at a similar level to a two-year old's - imagine the difficulties that a stroppy adult-sized toddler would present - and then some! When Chrissy's unsettled, as she was this weekend, her moods are balanced on a knife edge and it's like living in a war zone. As part of our legal challenge, I've been reading through old care records and they're a brutal reminder of what day-to-day life can be like with Chrissy. These behaviours have proved impossible to manage even in residential settings geared up for such challenges.

We hope that the reversion to old behaviours is temporary. As Chrissy's Zonisamide has been gradually upped, she's had spells of wetting herself at night and sleeping excessively - but then those side-effects have worn off in time for the next dose increase. Now it's been increased to its optimum therapeutic level, which seems to have tipped her over the edge. On the unit last week she'd had nosebleeds and kept wanting to go back to bed during the day. When she came home on Friday, she seemed fine at first then her mood kept switching from tears to manic laughter to shouting and demanding things. She took to the floor several times, biting her toes and pulling her hair. She demanded the same things over and over, like a stuck record, but whatever we gave her wasn't enough. She was generally more irritable and destructive, and broke her laptop mouse when she threw her laptop across the room. Ian's bloody brilliant when she gets like this; he's so patient with her, much more so than me. I find these rage episodes and prolonged periods of distress completely draining and they throw up painful feelings - resentment, guilt, pity, anger, grief, fear, helplessness, inadequacy....

Chrissy complained several times that she felt sick and, because she kept getting 'stuck' in one place and couldn't move on, yesterday, she couldn't even settle down to eat. Everything from persuading her to take her medication to getting her into the bath took far longer than usual. Then, when we finally managed to get her into the car and back to the unit at around 5.30pm, she wouldn't move out of the car. These aren't quite the same as her frozen states because she isn't content to sit quietly in her own space. It was upsetting to see her so distressed again but she is still alert and has all her wits about her. In fact, at one point, so determined was she to stay put, that she locked herself in the car. We had keys of course but there's no moving Chrissy when she doesn't want to be moved! We got stuck at the unit for ages, and had to laugh as we swapped places with Chrissy. We thought that if we hid out of sight behind the entrance gates she'd get bored and call us to be let out. Not a bit of it! Eventually her care-worker had a brainwave - to move the car slightly closer just to jolt Chrissy out of her fixed position. It worked but she took to the ground outside and still refused to move. At least we got our car back!

So on to the legal challenge - I've posted previously about the Ordinary Residence and Continuing Healthcare funding dispute, which kicked off after we relocated to a new county when Chrissy moved into Adult Services at 19. The timing of our move and the fact that Chrissy's condition worsened afterwards turned her into a political hot potato. The upshot is that we've had to engage solicitors yet again because the funding dispute is still adversely impacting on her life. As my husband, Ian, puts it: 'If we hadn't kept driving things on, Chrissy would have been condemned to a wretched life.' As the funding dispute started in 2008, it's hard to understand why an independent higher authority haven't been brought in to resolve it by now. It looks like this nearly happened in 2011 but the commissioners intervened by agreeing to a process called 'local resolution.'

A local resolution meeting was held in November 2011 and they promised to put things right. They offered to carry out a retrospective continuing healthcare assessment, which would be a major step towards solving the funding dispute and determining who was responsible for funding Chrissy's care package. They promised to complete it by February 2012. We're still waiting. Now they say Chrissy can stay in hospital until they've completed the assessment and funding responsibility is determined - yet they still haven't specified a definite date......

We are also concerned that if they claim that someone else has funding responsibility, the other official body will appeal, which will then lead to further delays. So we've been forced to bring matters to a head and have engaged solicitors. Last week the commissioners replied to their letter before action. I've spent the past few days correcting facts and omissions in their reply, and adding further evidence to strengthen our case, ready for the solicitors to prepare for the next step. Is what they're doing actually unlawful or just poor practice?

Chrissy's case is further strengthened by a wonderful letter from Mencap. Quotes include: 'It has been extremely difficult for Mencap to understand why the situation has remained stuck for so long.....'The amount of correspondence that Chrissy’s family have had to engage in to try and understand the barriers, and to try to move things forward for their daughter is difficult to believe.....''There has still been no proper assessment of Chrissy’s needs on which to base the planning......' 'The Government is very clear that people with a learning disability should be supported to live in their own communities. There is no reason why Chrissy should not be living in her own home near her family. It is crucial that the accommodation meets her needs and that she gets support from staff who are able to meet her complex health and behaviour needs. It is also crucial that she can get the right input from medical professionals, when needed.....' 'Chrissy should have the same opportunity to enjoy life as other young women her age, with the right support. She should not be living in a unit....' 'I am sure you will agree that it is unacceptable for the situation to continue as it is. I think we can all imagine how damaging and stressful it is for Chrissy and her family.'

Let's hope that we're nearing the end of this damaging chapter in our lives and that the outcome will enable Chrissy to live her life in the way that she'd want to. http://jgregorysharingsstories.blogspot.co.uk/2011/08/how-id-like-my-life-to-be-by-chrissy.html



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Living with a Rare Chromosome Disorder: A Life Transformed

Well....Chrissy's clinicians have deemed her ready for discharge now, just as I was beginning to wonder whether I was kidding myself to think that her behaviour and epilepsy would ever be stable again.

Since the last meds change several weeks ago, every day has been a sunshine day. We're almost at the optimum therapeutic dose of Zonisamide, at which point the stop-gap antiepileptic, Clobazam, will gradually be withdrawn.

It's heartwarming to see 'no seizures' and 'no challenging behaviours' recorded each day in Chrissy's ward/home report. The episodes of inconsolable distress have vanished. Music from her Ipad makes her dance in her chair and her cheeky chuckles ring out around the house. I took the photo above when we were sitting in my car and she had just reached across to stroke my arm lovingly. Simple gestures like that mean the world to me as Chrissy doesn't often instigate affection.

She is having a great time exploring the new ipad she got for her 29th birthday, doing puzzles, building snowmen and causing mayhem in her virtual home. At first she used different fingers and even changed hands to manipulate objects around the screen - but she's learning fast. She has relatively good manual dexterity and loves anything to do with computers.

On our morning walk to the village shop, Chrissy pointed out sights that interested her, including a metal arch over someone’s gate. 'Rainbow!' she cooed, then stood admiring it for a while. I was enchanted.

Chrissy admiring the 'rainbow'
Chrissy still struggles with transitions and needs all our attention but she's content and responsive, which makes our job much more rewarding. She wants to be out there living her life now. The unit do their best, and do take her out, but not as often as she would like. This morning when I asked her to take her medication, she replied: 'When the night staff come!' It's definitely time for her to move on but we've had to involve solicitors to focus commissioners' minds as things were dragging on. This has been the case with each of Chrissy's major transitions over the past few years. Legal aid cuts are brutal but, in this instance, Chrissy's solicitors were able to demonstrate that we had exhausted every other avenue and only turned to them as a last resort. She will, however, have to pay a contribution.

Chrissy's housing options are still unclear but we are finding a way through the maze. One of the biggest barriers we faced was accessing social housing. I was advised to bid on local homes by Chrissy's commissioners but after several bizarre 'admin errors,' a housing officer said that Chrissy wasn't 'well-placed' for general purpose social housing as she was 'unlikely to be thrown out onto the street.' If someone without a learning disability is at the point of discharge from hospital they would be moved to a priority banding..... The very few adapted properties that I've seen on the website are for the elderly only and, although Chrissy moves slowly and cautiously, she doesn't need adaptations for limited mobility. I then learned that there was a supported living panel at our local CC, which we had not been told about. Our local council's policy documents state that social housing for vulnerable adults and those with a learning disability are their priority. This hasn't been our experience and we've put in a Freedom of Information request to identify how many people with a learning disability have been offered social housing in the CC's area over the past year.

We've also made a mortgage application on Chrissy's behalf, which would be paid for from her benefits, and we're still exploring shared ownership schemes through registered social landlords. I had been left to deal with all this confusing information but now I've had enough and forward emails to the commissioners to deal with.

Chrissy finally has a social worker! Perhaps the long-awaited community care assessment will be done now. She must surely benefit from Social Services and NHS commissioners working together but why has it taken so long when the planning process has already taken place?

So, I'm still fighting to get Chrissy an appropriate care and housing package in the community, but the sting has gone out of it because she is so settled and content. This stability was only achieved by her spending time in an assessment and treatment unit and, in our view, the Government's knee-jerk reaction after Winterbourne to close down such units is misguided and dangerous. There's no doubt that big changes needed to be made, not least for assessment and treatment units to live up to their name - to assess and treat their patients - but we have much to thank Chrissy's unit for. They've brought her back to us.

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A Special Celebration & Undiagnosed Children's Day

When Chrissy arrived during the hottest April for 100 years, I was the proudest mum in the world. I was 23 and a first-time mum. It felt like my greatest achievement ever.

My baby looked flawless and her beautiful dark eyes seemed to take in every detail of her surroundings. In her little perspex cot on the maternity ward she waved her hands around so energetically that I called her our 'air traffic controller.'

Then the dark shadows started pressing in. Thank God we can't see what lies ahead of us.....

Like many children with undiagnosed genetic conditions, Chrissy was a failure to thrive baby. She struggled to feed and gain weight, and was floppy and sleepy - but she was a mass of contradictions. Mostly she was sunny-natured, alert and content to coo and watch the world go by but, even in infancy, she had prolonged spells of inconsolable screaming, and no one knew why. The rest is history and detailed in my book: 'Bringing Up a Challenging Child.... http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781853028748

Although we now know the cause of Chrissy's problems, she still remains quite an enigma to us and to her clinicians, despite spending three years in an assessment and treatment unit. We know her chromosome disorder causes hugely variable effects but her learning disabilities are significantly worse than most people affected by 1q21.1 microdeletion, even those with a larger area of deleted genes.

So where are we 29 years on?

We have another CPA (care plan approach meeting) coming up on Monday that we never expected to have. Chrissy has now been in the unit for over three years and is ready for discharge but despite my monumental efforts to find solutions and move things forward, she is still stuck there. The Government is very clear that people with a learning disability should be supported to live in their own communities so it is difficult to understand why there are so many barriers in place. I feel like I'm stuck too. It has been left to me to drive it all, and I now spend most of my time on this. It's the same with every major transition, eg when she went into the unit I was driven to the brink of despair along with her. Not only was I in pieces over her suffering but I fought epic battles to get her into hospital. Why does it have to be like this?

Mencap are very interested in Chrissy, and are finding it hard to understand why the situation has dragged on for so long. They are incredulous about the amount of correspondence that I've had to engage in to try and understand the barriers, and to try to move things forward for Chrissy. Her case has been brought to the attention of Chris Bull MP, who is leading the Joint Improvement Programme to move people out of assessment and treatment units after Winterbourne, and Norman Lamb MP, Minister for Care, who has asked to be kept informed of progress relating to Chrissy's case.

Our experiences are echoed by this excellent article highlighting flaws in the Government's plans to move people with learning disabilities and challenging behaviour out of assessment & treatment units into community-based settings:
http://www.communitycare.co.uk/articles/10/04/2013/119078/dont-ignore-housing-in-response-to-winterbourne.htm

Chrissy's most recent (and hopefully last for now) medication change has been from the antiepileptic, Keppra, to Zonisamide. Because she had three seizures in a row after Keppra was withdrawn, Clobazam, a benzodiazepine derivative like Valium, was added to Zonisamide and Epilim. Clobazam will be withdrawn when Zonisamide is titrated up to the therapeutic dose. Chrissy is already on the maximum therapeutic dose of Epilim. I've discussed seizure control/quality of life and my fears about the effects of medication on Chrissy's mood, health and general well-being in previous posts. Clobazam's sedative effect is dragging Chrissy down. I can't wait for it to end as it breaks my heart to see another drug stealing away her personality, and sapping her energy and intellect. I have to remind myself how far she's come - she rarely has screaming outbursts now and, as the effects of her medication wear off during the day, Chrissy is her old self again. It's a delight to see her enjoying jigsaw puzzles again, a skill she excelled at as a child.



Now Chrissy is more aware, she says with increasing frequency: 'I don't want to go back to the hospital.' I have sleepless nights, guilt trips and anxiety attacks over how she must feel living in a locked ward for so long, her suffering and disorientation from the effects of different medications, what she's gone through over the years, what the future holds for her etc. Of course I can only imagine how I'd feel in her situation but, no matter how hard I try to banish those thoughts, they haunt me. It would be such a relief to see her settled again near her family where we can be more involved on a daily basis and help with her support. It's the least she deserves.

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What Price Integration?

Alone in a crowd - with Team GB (Genetic Blip)

Thirty years after the drive to move people with learning disabilities out of austere, Victorian long-stay hospitals back into the community, could they once again, be victims of Government ideology gone too far?

A definition of supported living is 'persons with disabilities living where and with whom they want, for as long as they want, with the ongoing support needed to sustain that choice.' Nearly every Government policy supports the principles behind it but, as I've blogged previously, recent spending cuts and policy changes are blocking us at every turn. http://jgregorysharingsstories.blogspot.co.uk/2013/02/barriers-to-successful-care-in-community.html

The first supported living option we were shown was a bungalow in a cluster of three. I liked the secluded setting but, as it was too far from Chrissy's family home, I asked if there was anything similar nearer us. I was told: "Oh no, this is a one off; it was converted into three bungalows from one residential home. Ordinarily, we would never put three homes for people with a learning disability together like this as it stigmatises them, and makes them stand out in their local community."

I get the theory behind integration but, in practice, does it always work within the bigger framework of a person's needs? If Chrissy could speak for herself, I believe she'd say that her community needs to be small and contained, with lots of structure and routine, around people she knows that cherish her and accept her as she is and treat her with dignity. Chrissy's moods and health are balanced on a knife-edge. By her very nature, she segregates herself. Sometimes she loves to socialise and at other times she truly is alone in a crowd. So what would living in the wider community offer her that a smaller more secluded community couldn't? The big unpredictable space teeming with faces, sights, sounds and multiple choices that we call 'The Community' is anathema for many people with severe autism.

Last week I spoke to a parent who'd achieved my dream of having her child in a supported living setting close to her home. Prior to this, her son's complex/challenging needs had led to residential placement breakdowns - as Chrissy's had. When he'd first moved into the same street as his family, she'd told me 'it's as good as it gets.' It became the ideal I strove for and I wanted to know how she'd achieved it, but after hearing what she had to say I'm thinking: 'should I be careful what I wish for?'

"Jane, our kids are too 'special' for supported living and would be safer, and have a better life on a campus-like set-up - similar to where Chrissy is now but more of a little community," she said. "Like a retirement village but for people with learning disabilities and complex needs. As their challenging behaviour can be very disruptive to others they share with, they could live in their own home in the village, and there would be communal areas with other things going on that they could access if they chose to. They would each have their own staff team but back-up would be on hand."

Of course the wider community would be accessible too but sometimes it's in our children's best interests to keep them within certain confines to ensure their safety and maintain their dignity. Unfortunately, these core and cluster housing models are few and far between. The small rural community-based setting that she was describing sounds similar to St Elizabeth's School, which one of the children in 'Born to Be Different' attended http://www.channel4.com/programmes/born-to-be-different Chrissy, who'd been a termly boarder from the age of 14, and had been so happy there. It was geared up to the needs of its complex little pupils, and even had its own medical team to monitor their epilepsy. Specialists from top hospitals, like Great Ormond Street, routinely visited St Elizabeth's to see patients. It meant we no longer had to put Chrissy through the ordeal of attending hospital appointments in London.

The parent I spoke to explained why a similar setting, albeit one with single core residences, would be better for her son than the community-based set-up he's in now.

"He doesn't see the community like we do," she said. "He has a thing about paper and, if he spots a sweet wrapper or something blowing in the road, he will chase it, oblivious to the danger posed by passing cars. As he's a grown man, it's impossible to stop him once his mind is set on something. He has destroyed countless washing machines in his home because he's obsessed with taking them apart, and he's chucked stuff over the fence into his neighbour's garden because he can't stand the noise from her small children."

As we'd had difficulties in the past with community-based medical support from a learning disability team I asked what her experiences had been.

"Someone in the team keeps going off on long-term sick leave, so there's no continuity of care in one key area and we've had a battle to get a good psychologist. Support workers have felt abandoned and isolated because they haven't been given adequate back-up."

So can supported living work for all people with learning disabilities, even those with the most complex/challenging needs?

The prevailing ethos is that, with the right 'person-centred, flexible, bespoke support package' in place, it can. And if such an alluring support package does become available for Chrissy during these times of austerity? Well, I guess we'll have to wait and see...

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Post-natal Psychosis, Take a Break

This is one of the most heartbreaking stories I've ever written.

All 26-year old Karen had ever wanted was to be a mum but after her second child came along, she locked herself in her bathroom and stabbed herself in the chest. She died from a blood clot resulting from the wound 3 days later.

Her mum, Carol, tells the chilling story of how the tragedy unfolded, and how the family are still trying to come to terms with Karen's cruel and untimely death. As you can see from the photo, she has left behind two beautiful little girls.

Post-natal psychosis is an extreme psychiatric illness affecting as many as one of 500 new mums. It's thought to be linked to sudden hormone changes and lack of sleep but no one really knows for sure. Symptoms include paranoia, delusions, hallucinations and severe mood swings - and it can come on suddenly. A psychiatrist who specialises in the illness says that she has seen women go from acting normally to totally psychotic in a matter of hours.

For help & advice contact the Pre & Post Natal Depression Advice and Support helpline on 0843 2829 401

Barriers to Successful Care in the Community

Chrissy reading her Person-centred Plan
Since Winterbourne the Government has set up an action plan called a ‘'Joint Improvement Programme' to support local areas to provide ‘swift and sustainable action to ensure that services are personalised, safe and local.’ They want to move people out of assessment and treatment units and back into the community but our experiences demonstrate that the infrastructure just isn’t there. These individuals often have very complex needs and there are too many barriers in place that limit their chances of ending up in successful community placements.

Last Wednesday I was grateful for the opportunity to tell Chris Bull MP, who is the head of the team implementing the Joint Improvement Programme, about the barriers that Chrissy is facing.

Firstly, the team need to examine barriers that cause community-based placements to break down in the first place.

Ordinary Residence and Continuing Healthcare disputes: When we moved to Hampshire in 2003, Chrissy’s care management responsibility wasn't transferred correctly, and her care was still managed by a council based 80 miles away. She has never had a local social worker. The arguments between this council and our local PCT led to gaps in case management and poor continuity of care. The problems escalated when Chrissy’s condition deteriorated, which led to an emergency move to a residential home in a different county. I believe that the funding dispute played a key part in Chrissy’s admission onto the unit in the first place because the PCT did not accept that she had a primary health need and she was denied appropriate treatment. For example, until Chrissy entered the unit our attempts to get a second opinion on her medication were continually blocked.

Lack of a cohesive multi-displinary approach and inadequate medical support: Whenever Chrissy went through crisis periods in the community, opinion was divided between her family, staff and the local learning disability team as everyone struggled to cope. Chrissy is described as having challenging behaviours and highly complex needs but this only scratches the surface. For example, her epilepsy, extreme behavioural reactions to medication and history of life-threatening blood count problems made managing even small medication changes in the community very tricky. However, there was little infrastructure to support care staff, who frequently reported that they felt out of their depth. In the last community where Chrissy lived there was no acute service from the local learning disability team, which meant that when she was going through a crisis period, she wasn’t able to access an emergency appointment with her psychiatrist. In our experience learning disability teams need to use a more person-centred approach and listen to families more. Parents usually know their child’s medical history better than anyone. It hasn’t helped our situation that medical records are missing from Chrissy's two most crucial hospital stays.

Frequent home moves: Since we moved to Hampshire 10 years ago, Chrissy has moved home four times. Inadequate infrastructure in the community resulted in her eviction from a care home in 2008. Most residential care homes are privately run, which makes already vulnerable people even more vulnerable. Who would have thought that people with learning disabilities in privately-run care homes have fewer rights than the average tenant? We discovered this cruel injustice in 2009 when Chrissy was given 28 days’ notice after an incident that had resulted from a clear failure on the part of others to provide for her at her level of need and risk. Chrissy had no rights and was offered no representation at the POVA meetings held regarding the incident.

Cost and complexity of accessing local housing: Cost is the biggest barrier to moving Chrissy into a successful community placement and this is probably the case with many other vulnerable adults. Yet it would be far cheaper to get it right in the first place than to keep someone for more than three years in an assessment and treatment unit. The government has long been committed to the idea of care in the community – but whose community? If the individual’s family lives in an area where housing is more costly to rent or buy than average – tough! Last year the commissioners said that they would set up the ‘bespoke’ service that Chrissy needs and would be looking to engage with a Registered Social Landlord to buy a property off the open market. They then advised us that Housing Benefit doesn’t cover the cost of rents in our locality. Also Housing Benefit is calculated on a per person basis and Chrissy needs a sleep-in carer, which means two bedrooms. She is disadvantaged because she will have to meet the rent payment on her own and Housing Benefit won’t cover it.

We looked at buying Chrissy a house ourselves and renting it to her but there are new, confusing barriers in place there too. Shared ownership schemes were another option we explored but there was nothing available in our locality. All the different housing options are incredibly complicated and it’s another field, along with understanding how Decision Support Tools and Ordinary Residence work, that family carers have to become experts in as we are left to do most of the research. A friend looked at me in disbelief when I told her that doing all this for Chrissy is like having another job but that's how it is, especially during transitions like this move from the unit. I need an expert to guide me through the different options as it’s such a maze - and the rules keep changing! It’s unfortunate timing for us – the recent cuts and policy changes seem to have blocked all our avenues for accessing appropriate housing in the community.

We’ve explored private sector lease management through Registered Social Landlords that only sublet to disabled tenants but the rents they charge are way too high to be covered by Housing Benefit. Chrissy’s claim should be ‘exempt’ or excluded from the ordinary rules that cap Housing Benefit but the calculations that we’ve been given still fall short and the commissioners have told us that the only way we could access Registered Social Landlords is through renting from the council as it would be more affordable.

Unfortunately, we've yet to find any local social housing that will meet Chrissy’s complex needs. Most of the two-bed properties that she’s eligible for are flats in confined areas with either no garden or communal gardens. Chrissy can disrobe, thrash about and make lots of noise for prolonged periods when she's distressed. These challenging behaviours would be seen as a nuisance in a confined or overlooked area and could cause her, at best to be shunned, at worst, evicted - her previous eviction was due to the impact of her behaviour on other people she lived with.

The commissioners argue that we'd have more options if we were to consider a wider area and that Chrissy doesn’t need to live locally because the Campus Project (the move from long-stay hospitals over 20 years ago) ‘moved people with a variety of highly complex needs and they have successfully built community links.’ Really? That's quite a generalising claim and hard to prove. Given Chrissy’s challenging behaviour, limited abilities and autism, she would struggle to build community relationships and take part in local social activities in an unfamiliar area, even with the best of carers. There should always be compelling reasons for sending any individual with a learning disability out of area, and Ian and I believe that, due to her condition, if a single service supported living setup is going to work, Chrissy will need to be as close as possible to family support. As detailed in her Person-centred Plan, her family relationships are important to her, and are the only enduring ones she has. She lives for her visits home, which could be built in to her everyday life if she lived locally. We would also be on hand to provide back-up in emergencies.

Chrissy has been staying at her family home once a week for the past 10 years since we moved to Hampshire but when a rare opportunity for her to move into local social housing came up, she was denied it. If, as we'd requested, the discharge planning process had started earlier she may have been moved to a higher priority banding in time but in fact it's only happened in the last couple of weeks. We were also told by a Housing Officer that Chrissy wasn’t eligible because she hadn’t lived in the locality full-time, which seems unjust considering that, given the ability to express her preferences, Chrissy would have chosen to live locally from the start. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate that she's 28 and needs as much independence as possible for someone with her level of functioning, but the community near her family home is the only one, other than the unit, that she knows. People recognise her and stop to chat when I take her to the small local shop. Large supermarkets with their fluorescent lighting, crowds and vast array of goods, such as those in urban areas, flood Chrissy's senses and can cause her to erupt into prolonged screaming, self-injurious outbursts.

Good GP support is also crucial. When Chrissy was a child we lived in an urban area and our local surgery was large with a high turnover of staff. Chrissy’s GP didn’t know who she was when we called him out on an emergency. Here, our local GP knows our family and is aware of Chrissy's rare condition.

Moving Chrissy to an unfamiliar urban community is likely to cause her immense distress and result in a deterioration in her behaviour. Any move is going to be stressful for her as we’ve seen in the past. Chrissy’s condition makes her react in extreme ways to any small changes in her medication or her environment. An inappropriate move could put the whole supported living setup in jeopardy and she could end up back on the unit.

We don’t want Chrissy to be institutionalised but, frankly, she would be safer and happier staying in the small supportive community at the hospital where people know her and like her than living in the midst of a large, unfamiliar environment with neighbours that could view her as a nuisance.




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My Latest Story: New Kidney and a New Mistress

While Debbie Patterson's husband was unconscious after a kidney transplant she discovered he was in love with another woman. Debbie found it cathartic to share her story and, with the support of family and friends, she's getting through the most difficult time of her life.

It's no surprise that dealing with serious illness can make us face our own mortality and rock the foundations of even the strongest relationship. Debbie's husband, Mike, wasn't able to shed much light on his behaviour but says he didn't plan to get better and bugger off!

It's such a tragedy for Debbie because after supporting her husband through three years of ill-health & dialysis, she was excited about their future together. Now, unsurprisingly, she plans to divorce him.

Relate can help you even if you are not currently in a relationship and need support to deal with a major relationship crisis.
http://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-counselling/index.html